The 3 Most Common Barriers to Attracting New Love After a Breakup

During my divorce, I wanted to move on so badly. I was 31 and ready to have kids, but I had to slow down. In order to move on, I had to truly grieve and let go of the baggage. I also had to be deliberate in picking a new partner. If I didn’t do those two things, I would have just repeated my pattern and been stuck with someone similar to whom I had just left! It took a lot of willpower and support. I imagine that it will take a lot of willpower and support for you too. I understand how badly you may yearn to quickly put the pieces back together and find a new love who… more »

Your New Life Awaits

Let’s face it.  Your breakup is a big transition. While you aren’t who you used to be, you’re not who you will become yet either.  You are caught in the middle—somewhere between uncertainty, potential, doubt, and hope.  But trust that your new life does await. After a breakup, you are different.  Even though you are filled with chaos, shock, and turmoil, you can choose to see your breakup as a window of opportunity.  Look through the window.  The window shows you who you will become.  It is a metaphor for the desires, wishes, and urges that come to you.  I urge you to listen carefully to these soul callings, because this window is open now.  The good and bad news… more »

How To Pick Up The Pieces After A Breakup

How in the world do you get motivated to move on with your life after losing the person you thought you were going to share forever with? Even going to the grocery can seem like a chore.  Our culture barely gives us time to grieve after a death, much less a breakup, but both are intense losses.  The familiar expectation is that you suck it up and get on with life, but this can be difficult when you’re stuck in the neutral zone—a place of uncertainty and raw emotion. Matters of the heart know no time constraints.  It is important to acknowledge your breakup blues before you start beating yourself up about not getting on with life. You are not… more »

How to stop obsessing about YOUR EX

It starts with an innocent, “I’ll just check in to see if he’s happy.”.  Or, “I’ll send him an email because I want to share an experience I had that made me think of him.”  It ends with a sleepless night, obsessing about what his reply will be because you just had to text him to see how he was doing. You end up wasting your time ruminating on what could have been or making up stories to yourself about what he’s doing now or worse; you end help contacting him and sink into insecurity and doubt about what he’ll say if he gets back to you or whether he will reply at all.  Either way, it’s a downward spiral… more »

12 Habits of Happy Single Women

Being single and continuously pining for a partner is NO FUN! The women I see who are rockin’ singledom are living their lives FULLY and reflecting on how they want to grow. They are not lost in wishing that a lover would whisk them away and rescue them from themselves. The following are the 12 habits of happy single women. These women believe that no matter what, they deserve to claim the life they love. 12 Habits of Happy Single Women 1. Morning Ritual Every morning, no matter the time constraint, happy single women have a ritual where they fill their minds with positivity for the day to come. Yoga, meditation, a walk in nature, creative writing, singing, reading spiritual… more »