How to stop obsessing about YOUR EX

It starts with an innocent, “I’ll just check in to see if he’s happy.”.  Or, “I’ll send him an email because I want to share an experience I had that made me think of him.”  It ends with a sleepless night, obsessing about what his reply will be because you just had to text him to see how he was doing. You end up wasting your time ruminating on what could have been or making up stories to yourself about what he’s doing now or worse; you end help contacting him and sink into insecurity and doubt about what he’ll say if he gets back to you or whether he will reply at all.  Either way, it’s a downward spiral… more »

Key #5 Stop Escaping and Slow Down to Listen to Your Heart

Key #5 to a Drama-Free Breakup Through my 20’s and 30’s I was in a hurry.  I chewed fast, I showered fast and I rebounded fast.  I savored few things.  I missed out on what my heart was trying to tell me.  The language of the heart is slow and steady.  It’s a rhythm of peace and kindness.  When I rushed through my life, I was not able to connect with those that I loved.  Most importantly, I wasn’t able to connect to my own heart, because I flew through my days, ignoring my delicate passions and true desires.  My heart suffered because of this habit. Key #5 Stop Escaping and Slow Down to Listen to Your Heart If you want… more »

Continuing on with a Drama Free Breakup. Say NO to Stalking!

You will move beyond breakup drama, when you demand a no contact policy between you and your ex.  Say NO to stalking!  This means refraining from texting, calling, social media stalking, or contacting your ex for a specified period of time after your breakup. Key #4 Demand No Contact with Your Ex Your precious heart is a coveted item.  Have you seen that picture of a gooey heart being handed over to a special someone with the quote ‘will you take care of my fragile heart?’   Right now, it isn’t fair to expect your ex to take care of your fragile heart.  I know it’s hard because up to this point, he’s been the person you confide in…but he isn’t that… more »

Key #3 to a Drama Free Breakup

A drama free breakup is possible for you!  During a breakup, drama naturally sneaks into your life. You feel scared and disappointed when you decide to finally face the red flags. You can NOT always trust yourself to make a good decision when your ego’s deepest desire is to be safe and secure. The job of the ego is to stay safe and secure and shy away from vulnerability and change. In order to stay drama free in your breakup, listen carefully to your ego’s lies based on trying to keep you safe and secure and see them as exactly what they are, lies. Stop telling yourself lies about how you need to stay when you know in your heart… more »

Key #2 to a Drama Free Breakup

One of the reasons breaking up is so hard to do is because your head and your heart are often in conflict about major breakup decisions.  When your head and your heart are conflicted, it creates an incubator for possible drama at every crossroad. It’s up to you to make a decision to choose a drama free breakup before, during, and after you part ways.  Here’s the second key to help you do just that, stay tuned for three more in the coming weeks.   Key #2: Don’t Act on a Knee-Jerk Reaction Discerning the messages of the head and the heart will keep you from making knee-jerk reactions full of drama, uncertainty, and fear.  When you choose a drama-free breakup,… more »